
When babies are threatened, oxytocin actually increases aggression. Oxytocin decreases aggression in a mother’s body overall with one exception-in defense of her young. Neurobiologists call oxytocin the love hormone: The more oxytocin in the body, the more care and nurturing mammals show for their babies. See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love, is available for order here.

See No Stranger helps us imagine new ways of being with each other-and with ourselves-so that together we can begin to build the world we want to see. Drawing from the wisdom of sages, scientists, and activists, Kaur reclaims love as an active, public, and revolutionary force that creates new possibilities for ourselves, our communities, and our world. Kaur takes readers through her own riveting journey-as a brown girl growing up in California farmland finding her place in the world as a young adult galvanized by the murders of Sikhs after 9/11 as a law student fighting injustices in American prisons and on Guantánamo Bay as an activist working with communities recovering from xenophobic attacks and as a woman trying to heal from her own experiences with police violence and sexual assault. Starting from that place of wonder, the world begins to change: It is a practice that can transform a relationship, a community, a culture, even a nation. It enjoins us to see no stranger but instead look at others and say: You are part of me I do not yet know. How do we love in a time of rage? How do we fix a broken world while not breaking ourselves? Valarie Kaur-renowned Sikh activist, filmmaker, and civil rights lawyer-describes revolutionary love as the call of our time, a radical, joyful practice that extends in three directions: to others, to our opponents, and to ourselves. The following is a preview and an excerpt from her latest book, See No Stranger: A Memoir and Manifesto of Revolutionary Love, available for order here. She lives in a multigenerational home in Los Angeles with her husband, son, and daughter. A daughter of Sikh farmers in California, she earned degrees from Stanford University, Harvard Divinity School, and Yale Law School and holds an honorary doctorate. Her speeches have reached millions worldwide and inspired a movement to reclaim love as a force for justice.

She has won national acclaim for her story-based advocacy, helping to win policy change on issues ranging from hate crimes to digital freedom. Valarie Kaur is a civil rights activist, lawyer, filmmaker, innovator, and founder of the Revolutionary Love Project.
